Today my 96 yr old mom passed. My sister called 911 at 7:00 am and I was already at work. My sister from the state up north texted me and had told me, she was due to come in and visit mom today. My sister here left her a message to maybe wait to come in.
Mom was in the hospital a few days before the HOF activities and got released Saturday the 6th, I was supposed to meet up with Saint for some tailgating camping but didn't make it.Kept telling myself make sure I stop by after work and see her during this past week. I was her youngest and only son out of four older sisters and she loved seeing me. I lived 2 minutes away and would try to stop by occasionally and make her and my sister laugh.
Mom loved time spent together and I knew it made her happy. I hadn't made it over all week due to work and selfishness on my part, I could have stopped in for 10 minutes to make her happy but I put work and myself ahead of her.
Yesterday my two oldest sisters, the oldest that lived with her and took care of her told me mom kept saying she wanted to go home. Sis said it wasn't in the same voice as when she would be at a rehab facility and said she wanted to go home, it was a totally different tone. Mom also kept wanting my sisters nearby.
Normally when mom went into the hospital for a uti she would come home, this morning I felt different and I rushed around work trying to get things in place so I could leave and go see her. Unfortunately mom had passed without me by her side holding her hand and telling her how much I love her !
My mom loved the Rosary, for the Catholics who know about it, today is the Assumption which is the day the Virgin Mother Mary had passed and was raised into Heaven.
I feel so much guilt about not making 10 minutes out of my day to see mom, I just wanted to tell some of you who are in the same situation that if you can, please take that ten minuets to bring joy into a loved ones life.
I don't have the chance anymore, but I will always remember the times I did and will hear her laugh in my heart everyday !
Thank you for being here and letting me write this to you all !!
Knowing most of you from meeting you or paragraphs on here, you all have a special place in my life ! It is a chapter of my life you're all apart !
First of all, I'm sorry for your loss. Losing ANY loved one is tough, and hard. My condolences to you and your siblings. Perhaps I'll share more, later.
I'm going through a very similar situation with my father now. Even if he wasn't paying much attention the last couple of years, we've never missed watching a Browns game together. This season will be the first.
Condolences and prayers for you and your family.
Damn! Sorry bro.
Don't beat yourself up over not seeing her as much as you think you should have. It's always hard to know if you did the right thing or not. Your conscience speaks to your big heart and love for your family and others. All we can do is learn from each situation and evolve.
You know what's crazy? My mother-in-law passed recently. She was 94. My wife went up to PA to be w/her after she took another fall. My wife said that her mom also said "I want to go home." She passed w/in a couple of hours. That gives us something to think about and maybe some hope for a better ending.
Sorry for your loss. My condolences.
Don't be to hard yourself.
My mother passed away at 96. I had flown up from Atlanta to visit after my sister told she was in the hospital. I made it there in time to sit with her all night. She then was released to hospice care at her nursing home. I could not stay till the end. Not really knowing when I had a flight back before she passed.
You can know some things but not all things.
It is a final passage for any man when your mom passes.
Remember your best times together. She will understand.
You're breaking my heart, bro.
You can't beat yourself up over this. Time slips away from all of us. Life, by definition, means great loss. We don't control the how and when, nothing in the form of "woulda, coulda" is going to change that.
I know who you are, my friend. Anybody who's met you, and spent more than five minutes with you, would walk away knowing that you would bring a beaming smile to your mother's face every time she saw or even thought of you.
I'm so sorry for your loss. Hold the good times and memories close to your heart and cherish her 96 years here. Lean on your family and friends and get through this tough time without letting these last few days define anything -- they don't.
Hugs and prayers to your whole family.
Rest In Peace, Mom.
Many years ago, my grandfather, at 96, was near the end. Last time I saw him, he was just a beaten man. He told me that he was just ready to die. He kept saying that it was time, and he was ready to go.
I was going to see him the next day, but I was just so upset by what he was talking about. It was the day before Thanksgiving, and I figured I'd take my mom over to see him on Thanksgiving.
I got a phone call Thanksgiving morning, and I knew, before I answered it, that Granddad had died. I beat myself up for a long time over not going to see him that day before he died. I finally had to realize that he woiuld forgive me, and would not want me to beat myself up.
Be thankful that you got to have your mom for so long. There are many who lose parents early in life. I am very thankful that I still have my mom, and that she is mostly able to do things she wants to do, including taking care of herself. I am also aware of the passage of time, and how much faster it seems to go by, the longer I live.
I pray for peace for your family. May the love of God surround you, and comfort you.
Very sorry for your loss, DD. Hang in there, your mom is with God.
Hugs and prayers to you and your family. Losing loved onew is really difficult.
Sorry to hear this my friend. My heart and prayers go out to you and your girls.
Sorry to hear that my friend.
Don't feel guilty about skipping a 10 minute visit. Your Mom knows you loved her. 10 minutes wouldn't have added to that. Be at peace my friend.
So sorry. You have my condolences and prayers. Losing mom is heartbreaking.
I'm so sorry. My condolences :'(
Sincere condolences Deisle. My Mom was also 96 when she passed away, but she hadn't been herself for several years before she died. She really wasn't aware of her surroundings. I used to beat myself over the fact that I hated visiting her because she "wasn't the Mom I remembered" and many times on the way I wished she would be asleep so I wouldn't have to bother her. Mom would just lie in bed and her memory was all over the place She used to think I was her brother (same first name as me and she was very close to him when they were younger) and he died in the mid 60s. I would bring my grandson to visit occasionally, and she sometimes thought he was my son. The last time I brought him was the last time I truly saw her smile. When she was still in her apartment in the small town we lived, I checked on her all the time but eventually it was too dangerous to leave her alone.
Don't beat yourself up with the guilt you are feeling. It sounds like you were a good and loving son when it mattered.
Prayers to you and your family.
Sorry for your loss Deisle.
Deis...sorry for your loss...thoughts and prayers for you and your sisters.
Very sorry to hear of your loss.
The loss of an immediate family member are the toughest to cope with.
Prayers from here.
Sorry for your loss my man. It’s never easy to lose a parent. Remember the good times and what you shared.
Man, so sorry for your loss. Having lost both parents myself I can relate. The first initial thing that is very natural to do is to second guess yourself. The coulda woulda shoulda can drown you. It's a terrible waste of time but hard to avoid.
Grief is hard and a very individual experience. There's no one size fits all on how to grieve. But I do have to say there was one thing that helped me during that time was the one question I think everyone should ask themselves. "What would they want for me?" I knew that those who loved me the most would not want to me to drown in my pain. That they would want me to carry on, to remember the good times and the love we shared. My thought was that in order to honor them and their wishes, I would need to move on. Grieving is natural and we all need time to grieve. But as time passes it helps to remember what they would have wanted for you moving forward. It helps to bring the good times more in focus and that the end just a part of the story rather than the story itself.
My condolences and best wishes go out to you and your family.
Deisle, I’m so sorry for your loss. Do not beat yourself up for not stopping. Your mother knows you love her and I doubt she would want you to blame yourself. I’ll say a prayer for her.
Sorry got your loss, deisle. Thoughts are with you.
I'm sorry for your loss, Deisle. ::hug::
Thank you my friends, your words have been a blessing. The kindness and caring you showed really helped me through this time.
I had at first beat myself for not making it to see her. That's not what she wanted. I was able to find joy in her passing. The way she went was truly special.
After I accepted the way she passed I began to have wonderful memories of her and I. I could see her smile hear her laugh and feel her peace.
Today was her very small and private funeral, She looked beautiful, her casket was beautiful and the pink roses covering her casket were beautiful.
Today was a beautiful day, I wanted to come thank you all for being here for me.
Your words were special !
Thank you !
Glad to hear the funeral was special and meaningful. Continued prayers
Sorry to hear that, Deisle. You and your family will be in my prayers. I'm glad the funeral was a beautiful day.
Always with you bro. Don't beat yourself up.. That was a tough weekend
My condolences to you and your family
My prayers and condolences all around. It is a hard, hard spot. Be strong.