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I feel stupid for even asking this because I don't normally like to ask personal questions to people. Especially on a message board but here go's.
I work with this girl and she is absolutely gorgeous. Every day she comes back into my section of the building and I always catch her looking at me but that is when she just walks by or through. She will also come up and talk to me or hit me playfully sometimes or say something to me to "pick" on me.
The problem is that if this was any girl semi attractive when I was out at a club or anywhere else I would have no problem talking to her but her being a knockout I have a hard time talking to her because I feel I might say something completely stupid.
I'm not stupid I know the girl is probably into me but there are a few things that scare me to try and step to her. One, like I said she is really attractive and I have a hard time being myself. Two I work with her and I don't want to try and get with her because my work might frown on it and what if she wasn't interested and was just being flirty for sake of being flirty.
Also, and this is the biggy. I think she has a boyfriend.
Haha, I feel like i'm in highschool or something. Asking for girl advice.
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Find out how her boyfriend is "doing." Where did he go to high school, play ball ? Tell her straight up, he's a lucky man,...
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1. Don't mix work and romance - combination for bad things to come 2. She has a boyfriend - enjoy flirting back, but know that she's going home to another dude, and think of #1 above.  3. If you really feel confident, invite her out to the bar, get smashed, and blame whatever you do or say that might turn out bad on being drunk. 
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Ask her out for a Saturday lunch....if it goes well....a movie after.
Screw the boyfriend....girls have boyfriends because their friends have boyfriends......and if he kicks your butt....you always have legal recourse.
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Well theres always the christmas party. We all always get drunk so that seems like an appropriate setting to talk to her a bit more.
Theres always people around when she comes back so I don't really get an opportunity to talk to her privately even if I did conjure up enough nuts to ask her anything. Wouldn't want to ask her anything like that in front of co-workers.
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Ask her out for a Saturday lunch....if it goes well....a movie after.
Screw the boyfriend....girls have boyfriends because their friends have boyfriends......and if he kicks your butt....you always have legal recourse.
I suggest against this idea, not only will she get mad and jealous, she will probably let the secret out about your sexual preferences. 
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I'm not going to ask her out directly. Even though I probably should.
I think I just might wait until the Christmas party here in a few weeks to get a better chance to talk to here and feel here out before I go asking her anything like that.
I don't want to get burned and be the butt of the joke at work.
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Christmas party + drinks...good - now you're thinking.
Not sure if this applies at your job or not, but I've always benefited from what a wise man once told me a long time ago - always...always be the perfect gentleman and "good" guy around the old motherly types at work for situations just like this. They love setting cute chick up with good looking and nice kid at work. They will do the pimping for you.
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Hahaha.
Don't have to worry about that one.
I'm not worried about the boyfriend getting mad at me or wanting to fight me. That's the least of my worries. I just wonder if she's one of those girls that flirt because they like to be wanted but thats as far as it go's. If she didn't have a boyfriend and was flirting with me it would be different I guess.
I think i'm thinking too much about and just need to man up and ask her to come hangout sometime.
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Wrong.
Christmas parties are the time to advance your career a bit further.
The powers that be use that as an opportunity to see how you might act at other social affairs the company might hold.
You want to impress on this woman you take things seriously.
The nature of females is commitment and security.....as is intended to protect the gene pool. You want to show her you know how to act....and getting smashed isn't the way to do that....or....if it is....she isn't the gal for you....or shouldn't be.
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I'm not going to ask her out directly. Even though I probably should.
I think I just might wait until the Christmas party here in a few weeks to get a better chance to talk to her and feel her out before I go asking her anything like that.
Always talk to her before you feel her out.
I have never personally heard it referred to as an "out" though. It's hard to keep up with you kids.
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All the ladies love me at work.
Some of them have actually tried to hook me up with girls before.
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Hehe, I don't mean i'm going to get hammered and get her to grind the hell out of me on the dancefloor.  It's just an out of work enviorment where we could un-wind and have a better more private conversation. That is if she doesn't bring the ole ball and chain. I don't think she will
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If you're just looking to bed a knockout, use some flirty small talk to make sure her head is on straight and in the same place as yours. If so, then pull out the big guns. If not, you've made a friend to joke around with, or at least avoided a future headache.
If you want more than that, work is not the place to find it.
And into the forest I go, to lose my mind and find my soul.
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Just ask her to lunch....then you will find out if it is her ball and chain or your ball and chain.
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1st get some roofies...............
I wish to wash my Irish wristwatch......
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Never let a little fear stand in the way of an evening with a beautiful woman.
Approach her and find out if she is available for dinner sometime before Christmas. Let her know that you find her very interesting and that you two could have a fun evening...she already knows that she is hot so skip that angle.
Don't let her beauty intimidate you...go for it...what can you lose?
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I'm actually in the same situation as you are right now.. *chuckle* but things have been going a bit different.. we've been talking for hours on end on the phone.. hanging out.. and getting to really get to know each other.. it's advancing pretty far.. the problem as well is the boyfriend issue to which she has said she feels unfulfilled in but welll i guess to me it's about high risk, high reward. If it was high risk, low reward I would have walked away personally, but she's too much like me to just do that.. but in the end things can still end up badly, but I am prepared for that. I understand the risks but am hoping to reap the rewards. But we never know how things will end up until they do.. Just keep a level head and be yourself.. and well she may just be into you  but well you have to weigh the risk vs reward.
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1st get some roofies...............
2nd don't take any advice from Tyler
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1st get some roofies...............
2nd don't take any advice from Tyler
I don't think the roofies are for her, but for him so he could ask her out, but then forget the incidence of getting shot down..
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I work with this girl and she is absolutely gorgeous.
I only have one question.
When did 4"2 410 pound 65 year old woman become gorgeous in your mind. 
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we've been talking for hours on end on the phone.. hanging out.. and getting to really get to know each other.. it's advancing pretty far.. the problem as well is the boyfriend issue
It's time to say that you don't feel comfortable going any further with a boyfriend in the picture. If you're talking for hours on end and hanging out, you've already taken things to the next level. You're meeting needs of hers that the boyfriend isn't, and it could go on for a long time.....because between the two of you, all of her needs are being met. The boyfriend's meeting the fun ones.
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we've been talking for hours on end on the phone.. hanging out.. and getting to really get to know each other.. it's advancing pretty far.. the problem as well is the boyfriend issue
It's time to say that you don't feel comfortable going any further with a boyfriend in the picture. If you're talking for hours on end and hanging out, you've already taken things to the next level. You're meeting needs of hers that the boyfriend isn't, and it could go on for a long time.....because between the two of you, all of her needs are being met. The boyfriend's meeting the fun ones.
well thats always a risk that is involved ofcourse, but well i do see it going towards that "more fun" area as well, but well i'll see.. afterall it still is early.. i'm not ready to throw in the towel yet mainly because I have been looking for a girl like her for awhile and never having any luck because its rare for me to find anyone closely like her. but i should see in the coming weeks.
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Christmas parties are the time to advance your career a bit further.
The powers that be use that as an opportunity to see how you might act at other social affairs the company might hold.
Damn, guess I should stop skipping them then.
Anyway, like Beerdowner said, don't crap where you eat. There will be other women.
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Not good.............too many co-workers will talk when they learn what you are doing! I am just talking from experience.......It did not work for me! A pretty face can make you do silly things....it did in my case!
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When did 4"2 410 pound 65 year old woman become gorgeous in your mind.
Why do you keep dressing in drag at his office???
...and pssst... he wants to know if you have a boyfriend
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"You know ..... if you keep this up, people are gonna start talking. In fact, I think that some are already saying that you want me bad." (said with a hint of a grin .... but not too much) Then just watch her reaction.
Micah 6:8; He has shown you, O mortal, what is good. And what does the Lord require of you? To act justly and to love mercy, and to walk humbly with your God.
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MOST importantly...
Is she a Browns fan? Perhaps even more important, is she a Squeelers fan???
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out of all honesty:
1) Do not get in a relationship with a co-worker. Not a serious relationship.
2) Have fun and PROTECT yourself... GET heR' DONE!!
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I work with this girl and she is absolutely gorgeous.
I only have one question.
When did 4"2 410 pound 65 year old woman become gorgeous in your mind.
Ha. 
More like 5' 7" 110lbs blonde hair blue eyes.
To answer another question she is all Ohio. Browns, Cav's, Indians and Buckeyes.
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I guess i'm just going to have to quit being a pansy and make a move. I mean seriously the girl compliments me on how I smell sometimes, she's always checking me out, she hit's me and picks on me and I also notice that when she comes in on her way out she pulls up her shirt while she's walking away just enough for me to get a nice glance at her cute little buns. GRRR, haha.
If that doesn't scream come get me I don't know what does.
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what if she wasn't interested and was just being flirty for sake of being flirty.
I hate that crap...i thought tht would go away as i get older...but nop...still around
My 2 cents....ask her out...life is short...
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Nope i'm afraid it doesn't.
It sucks. Wouldn't it be great if women could just be like hey your cute let's go on a date instead of sending signals or whatever they do?
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Nope i'm afraid it doesn't.
It sucks. Wouldn't it be great if women could just be like hey your cute let's go on a date instead of sending signals or whatever they do?
ah it's the games they play.. i swear they do it only to have some guy ask them out only to shoot them down.. to lift their egos but well I guess in my current case... mm yeah she likes me.. anywhos... but I dont like those games myself either... stop beating around the bush..
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It's usually the ones that are hot and know it. That's the worst.
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It's usually the ones that are hot and know it. That's the worst.
which is why I typically avoid those types.. their arrogance actually decreases their beauty in my eye to begin with anyways.. but thats just me.
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Wouldn't it be great if women could just be like hey your cute let's go on a date instead of sending signals or whatever they do?
LMAO.. whatever THEY do? What exactly are YOU doing? You're fishing for interest with your flirting and love taps just like she is.... You're sending "signals" just like she is looking for a response or a reciprocation... And now you're asking a bunch of strangers how you should proceed... and I'll bet she's spending her evening either: A. talking to a close friend about it or B. not giving you a second thought because her flirting is really nothing more than friendly flirting...
And YOU want HER to stop goofing off and ask YOU out?... basically you want her to "cowboy up" while you waffle and don't know what to do because you are intimidated by her beauty... What is it that seems wrong with all that? hmmmmmmmmmm 
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The problem is that if this was any girl semi attractive when I was out at a club or anywhere else I would have no problem talking to her but her being a knockout I have a hard time talking to her because I feel I might say something completely stupid.
Speaking from experience here Clutch....
I have a number of 'knockout' friends as you put it - and amazingly they seem to get less attention and men. The fact is a number of guys will believe the girl is out of their league and go for something more attainable, leaving the 'knockout girl' on the sidelines.
How many times do you see a stunning girl with an average looking guy?
Dont let the fact that YOU think she is a 'knockout' make you treat her any differently ......... Just go for it 
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I mean seriously the girl compliments me on how I smell sometimes
Maybe the first few times she met you, you didn't smell good, so now she mentions it to insure you keep good hygiene?
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