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My thoughts on destination weddings is that whomever can come is a bonus.Some people cant afford to go, some people have kids and some people only get 2 weeks holidays a year.

Heres the dilemma, my wife is in the wedding party of one of her friends wedding, and she expects every one to go. She has told me anyone who doesnt come, she will be very pissed at. She feels that its her day and no matter what everyone has to be there.One of the groomsmen just got audited and owes $25,000 in back taxes: she is very angry at him and wont talk to him because he cant go now.Should i go, shoulnd my wif go,or should we both go? Canadadawg, I know you know the bridezilla, so be nice.

What are some of your thoughts, stories or imput on this or any destination weddings?

Tell " Her " to get out " Her " check book or credit card

I would say that you look at it as any other thing, but with a higher price tag.... If you can swing it and you think it is worth it, then go.
if you can't, then don't.

Whether or not some spoiled, self-centered bride will be pissed at YOU for not dropping potentially thousands for HER day... well, I surely wouldn't let that weigh into the decision (though I might say a prayer or eight for the groom, lol).

Tell bridezilla to get bent. Just because one chooses to get married out of the country/state doesn't mean everyone else should have to mortgage their homes to come be a part of it. Let me guess she also wants gifts from everyone who has now already spent big money just to show up at her bloated event?

My wife and I got married in Costa Rica. We discussed inviting people but didn't want to financially burden our friends and families with our choice of doing the destination wedding thing. Instead we had a beautiful, private ceremony.

Your wife's friend sounds like she's got a over-inflated sense of self worth.

They chose a destination wedding and with those there are some people that can't afford to go. They knew that would affect some people. It shouldn't be an issue. And if it is, then she's not a friend.

One of my best friends just came back from his sister-in-law's wedding in Italy (she's from Chicago). The bride actually got mad at their own father for thinking about not attending since he had a recent heart attack. Also, a few of the people got their airfare dumped because the airline declared bankruptcy....and she was pissed at them for not rebuying tickets within 3 days of the wedding.

I'm telling you.......these women and their weddings.

I wouldn't go just to tick her off. She sounds like a unfriendly person....telling people if they don't go she will be mad...haha

I would give her a ear of Indian corn for a wedding present.

My husband and I concidered getting married in Michigan just so people wouldn't come! It sounds brutal, but we really only wanted our parents there. We ended up getting married near home anyways with just our parents... this was mostly due to people not being able to take vacation and my dad's health.
Brides who get all bent out of shape about this stuff are just plain ridiculous. I've never understood it and I never will. It's supposed to be a happy day and you see women stroking out over powder blue napkins instead of periwinkle. Crazy. 50% end in divorce anyway.

I say don't go. Pure spite is a good enough reason in my book. If she's stupid enough to burn all her bridges this early on then she deserves what's coming to her. Most women look at their wedding day as the biggest day of their life... they're so worried about the wedding, that they forget about the marriage. You will need your friends more than ever after the fact, JMHO.

Dude, I didn't know you still had an out!

I do know the bridge. Decent enough chick most of the time but the dawgs have sniffed her out....bit of a princess.

I'm pretty much in agreeance with Canadian....destination weddings need to be planned realizing that alot of people simply can't swing the bucks or would rather do something else with thier vacation time. I can sympathize. This one jackass I know made me go all the way to BC for his wedding, plus drink and golf along the way....

Oh, hold on...that was CanadianDawg's wedding... It was righteous and I learned that my public speaking ability declines as my drink count goes up.

But I digress, I think the bottom line is if people demand that people attend a destination wedding, then they better be willing and able to foot at least part of the bill or find great deals or something that lowers the burden.

If nothing else, there's nothing to say the wife can't go....we'll go drinking.

Oh...as a tack on, learned today that the bachelorette party is in Vegas...

Rumor is that the wedding shower will be in the Virgin Islands, the gift opening in Tahiti and the wedding rehearsal in Cuba....

Gad, and people wonder how credit gets out of control.

Help the economy...ban destination weddings.

First, the bride sounds like a spoiled brat.

Second, the destination makes a big difference to who will make the attempt to attend.

Third, if she's going to do a destination wedding in this economy, and hold grudges to those that don't come, she should be smacked upside the head and told what an ass she is being.

I've done my share of Destination weddings. And usually, in my experience there is three types.

1. The bride/groom invite a select number of close friends who all show up and have a wonderful time. This is usually paid for by the bride/groom/family for those select friends. I've seen this range from 4 people to 200 people. These are usually the easiest going groups (except the bride, she's always a nervous wreck!).

2. The bride/groom invite everyone they know, and they usually expect a few to show up. Some do some don't. Either way they have a great time among friends and it's a blast to host.

3. The bride/groom invite everyone they know and expect everyone to drop everything. The groom hides in his room the whole time cause the bride won't let him have any choice in anything so he stays away or goes to the bar with the few that have come to support him in his incarceration. The bride is primarily fussy about everything regardless of if it's right or not and usually spends her days making everyone miserable except that one best friend who didn't get chosen as the Maid of Honor who nitpicks everything and encourages everyone to be miserable. These parties are destined to fail and they will at best provide moderate laughter at the grooms expense.

Sounds to me like you're heading for episode #3. I'd stay away. But then again, I'm not the host, so maybe I can go for comedic value?

Canadian~If you can afford it and it's someplace you want to go, then by all means go...Otherwise, tell Bridezilla that you'd be pleased to go if she's paying for the wedding party to attend.

Or, just send the wife as she's the one in the Bridal Party, not you, and take Canada up on his offer to go drinking! LOL!

The hubs and I were going to do a desitination wedding too, just to limit cost for us (we have huge extended families and long time friends). Our officiant was the Mayor of our town, and he was willing to go wherever we wanted for the ceremony (at our expense, of course). However, his wife (then girlfriend, who is the person responsible for him officiating our wedding) has fairly expensive tastes in travel arrangements. Hell no could John and I afford them! We went for a small ceremony in our home with 10 people in attendance. It was PERFECT!

There you go.....bridezilla....haha....tell her you will be mad if she doesn't pay to get you there...


Been to several of those......but trust me....had someone told me they would be mad at me for not going...


Sorry you can't see the expression on my face....words can't describe.