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Here's a disgusting story for you. This guy might be one of the biggest scum-bags of an ex-boyfriend in history. Terrible . . .

http://cbs4denver.com/wireapnewswy/Casper.woman.speaks.2.1930025.html

Sep 24, 2010 10:31 am US/Mountain Wyo.

Craigslist Rape Victim Speaks For First Time

WILLIAM BROWNING, Casper
Star-Tribune

CASPER, Wyo. (AP) ― With tears sliding down her cheeks and her slight voice sometimes nearly silenced by a quiver, the Craigslist rape victim spoke publicly for the first time Thursday on national television.

Sarah Lynn Kostovny, appearing on The Oprah Winfrey Show, revealed herself as the victim of a horrifying rape that took place inside her Casper home last December.

While she admitted to having been forever changed by the assault — "I feel the pain all the time" and "It is something I will never forget" — she said one reason she came forward is her hope that other rape victims can draw courage from her.

"I want women to know that you can have the strength and the power to overcome something of this sort," she told Winfrey. "It will be something that I will always remember, but I will move on from it. And I can become a better person because of what has happened. And it does not define the person that I am."

Ty Oliver McDowell, a 26-year-old Bar Nunn man, pleaded guilty to raping Kostovny at knife-point on the morning of Dec. 11. McDowell, investigators say, got the 25-year-old woman's address from Jebidiah James Stipe.

A Carbon County native who at the time was stationed in California with the Marine Corps, Stipe had posted a bogus ad on Craigslist pretending to be Kostovny, police say. The ad, which McDowell answered, requested a rape fantasy. More than 161 people responded to it.

"I never imagined that there would be people like that out there who would hurt others," Kostovny said.

Stipe and McDowell eventually pleaded guilty in Natrona County District Court to first-degree sexual assault and other charges. They both are currently serving prison sentences of 60 years to life.

The case drew national attention and was cited by Craigslist critics as an example of how the popular San Francisco-based company can be abused by criminals. Earlier this month, under pressure from attorneys general across the country, the company removed its adult services section.

Stipe, 28, posted the ad in that now-defunct part of the website. It read, in part, "Need a real aggressive man with no concerns for women well being."

During one part of the show Thursday, Kostovny described how the attack began.

"I walked up to my house like I normally do," she said. "Within an instant, somebody was behind me and they grabbed me around the shoulder and pushed me into the house.

His words to me were, 'You want an aggressive man, b----, here I am.'"

Though she initially screamed and tried to fight off her attacker, she said she stopped after McDowell, who had bound her ankles and wrists, told her he would kill her.

Kostovny thinks Stipe, who she had briefly dated, was angry at her for getting engaged to her fiance, Ian Kincaid Kelso. That anger, she said, led him to post the ad.

"I believe that he wanted Ian and I to break up," she said. "And he felt if I was severely hurt, Ian would leave and he could become my knight in shining armor."

Kostovny and Kelso, who also appeared on the Oprah Winfrey Show, are to be married in October, according to a Star-Tribune wedding announcement published earlier this month.

The audience that witnessed the show, which was taped Wednesday, applauded Kostovny throughout the show for the strength she displayed in coming forward and sharing her story.

"I have my good days and my bad days," she said. "I've learned that this is something that I can't change. And I'm trying to move forward with the rest of my life."

Wow, what dirtbags both these guys are..... I sure hope they are put away for a long long time.

That aside,, what kinda "real" man needs to physically harm a woman to get his jollies?

One who thinks it's ok to hurt those that can't or won't fight back.

It's so sickeningly wrong.

We actually read about a case like this in law school with a guy who was in the Air Force I believe. He told his buddies to go have sex with his wife, and told them to ignore her attempts to resist since it was all "part of the act."

I can't fathom how sick some people really are.

What a miserable, foul, disguting and revolting pair of so called human beings.

Hopefully both of these guys have way too many "friends" to count in prison who will exact karmic vengeance on their asses for the next 60-life.

I don't find it unbelievable. Humans have been doing bad things to other humans since the dawn of time, and probably will continue to do so for the remainder of our time on this planet.

In time the young lady will be able to compartmentalize this disgusting act and it won't be at the forefront of her thoughts. While she will never forget she will be able to come to some sort of peace.

As for the guys, 60 to life means 60 is the soonest, so one would assume those guys die in a cage.

Seems fitting.

Something tells me it is going to be harder for them to forget what freedom was like then it will be for her to set aside the violation.

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That's one reason I'm not in favor of the death penalty. In essence it relieves them of actually paying for their crime. Spending year after year in confinement is a daily reminder to them of how they've hurt someone and now reap the reward for such a callous action. And who knows, maybe they'll learn a lesson and someday be able to say something that will make others who might otherwise turn out like them stop and think about it. Someone else could be spared from becoming another victim.

Kill the ... and he doesn't even know he's dead. Where's the punishment in that?

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I don't find it unbelievable. Humans have been doing bad things to other humans since the dawn of time, and probably will continue to do so for the remainder of our time on this planet.

In time the young lady will be able to compartmentalize this disgusting act and it won't be at the forefront of her thoughts. While she will never forget she will be able to come to some sort of peace.

As for the guys, 60 to life means 60 is the soonest, so one would assume those guys die in a cage.

Seems fitting.

Something tells me it is going to be harder for them to forget what freedom was like then it will be for her to set aside the violation.

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Something tells me it is going to be harder for them to forget what freedom was like then it will be for her to set aside the violation.

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That's one reason I'm not in favor of the death penalty. In essence it relieves them of actually paying for their crime. Spending year after year in confinement is a daily reminder to them of how they've hurt someone and now reap the reward for such a callous action. And who knows, maybe they'll learn a lesson and someday be able to say something that will make others who might otherwise turn out like them stop and think about it. Someone else could be spared from becoming another victim.

Kill the ... and he doesn't even know he's dead. Where's the punishment in that?

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If there's any justice in this world, both of you Dawgs' posts should be the way things play out.

'Peen: My money's on this young woman surviving this and finding a good life for herself, as you've mentioned. To go on national TV to tell her story shows uncommon strength in a person. Many if not most would hide in shame and fear after such a horrific event. If she's strong enough to tell her story so that others might be helped, she's strong enough to keep this event from destroying her.

ddub: let the punishment fit the crime. This is definitely one scenario where the Old Testament "eye for an eye, tooth for a tooth" brand of justice is entirely appopriate, imho. Let them know what it's like to have their freedom of safety taken from them. Let them know what it's like to have their ability to say "no" fall upon deaf ears. Let them know what it's like to be powerless, violated, dehumanized, used.

Let them revisit the lesson until they're old, gray and totally defenseless. Daily. For decades.

I won't lose even one wink of sleep over their "problems."

There is such a thing as reaping the harvest one sows. In this case, I'd say that this bitter harvest is deserved in full... because even one minute of thought or humanity on the part of both these scumbags could have kept this awful thing from happening... but they didn't care enough to even try. They just did what they did. On impulse.

I find it terribly appropriate that they'll have the next 60 years to re-live this poor woman's one night... over and over.

Sometimes, justice is poetic.

Something a bit odd being against rape in one instance yet look forward to it in another.

As with Ddub, I have changed my views on the death penalty and am mostly against it where a few years ago i was all for it.

I have been making changes in my life and one of them is a closer relationship with God.

60 years is a long time where maybe these guys will find some answers, and I am pretty sure they will. People change a great deal between the age of 25 and 60. They are going to have a long time to reflect.

I pray they find the answers to help them find their salvation just as much as I pray this young lady finds peaceful closure and finds a degree of forgiveness in her heart..