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i am still young, so i need some advice from people that have been through this.
i like the company i work for, i like my boss, i like my fellow employees. the company treats me very well, i have a position of authority, and i have the ability to make important decisions on behalf of the company. i get paid well, i get free healthcare, and free life insurance. i have unlimited vacation days and a schedule so flexible that i can come and go as a i chose.
however, i dread coming to work. when i am at work, i do everything BUT work because i don't want to be here. i don't like my job duties.
also, the job i have is the only job i could hold in the company, unless i got promoted. i wouldn't want that because i dont like the job duties as it is ...
do the positives outweigh the negatives?
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I just lost a job of 26 years I thought I liked...I didnt. I've never felt better, doing fine and have plenty of work opportunity on my own!
Now, I am 50, dont owe anything and have a broad skill set so my situation differs I'm sure.
Keep in mind the economy, your financial situation and prospects of a replacement job.
But happiness means a lot and I'm finding that out!
Maybe, and of course I dont know you and am not judging you. Maybe you need to just evaluate yourself, your mental state and if you can adjust that to get a fresh outlook! I think EVERYONE should do this on occasion!
Good luck to you! Be wise!
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There's no amount of money that can make up for unhappiness. None.
However, before making a decision to leave, have a plan.
The good news you're still young and can afford to take some risks.
I turned 37 in March. I've been out of college for 14 years. I blinked and it was gone. Moral of the story: If I could give any young people some advice, it would be to pursue what makes you happy. Life passes by quickly and you don't want to wake up 30 years from now and feel unfulfilled.
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thanks for the advice. i am definitely not going to just up and quit. i would never quit before being hired for another job. i am thinking of starting the looking process. before i found this job, i was looking for about 13 months. i think i took the job because i hated my other job so much that i was ready to leave.
now i have been at this current job for 9 months, and i still dont like it. i didnt like it on my first day, but i have been sticking it out to see if it will get better. it hasnt.
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There's no amount of money that can make up for unhappiness. None.
Agreed. I'm in a similar position as the OP. I make decent money, good benefits, but don't care for the work and am starting to think about leaving. Personally I think when you are miserable going to work everyday, it's time to take a look around.
It's supposed to be hard! If it wasn't hard, everyone would do it. The hard... is what makes it great!
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yes your positives out weigh your negatives.
heres my thinking. it looks like to me that company affords you a couple things that
most American workers don't have.....fully paid health care and unlimited vacation time.
Your job allows you to be able to plan and schedule your life. You can come and go as you choose. 99.0 % of your work places don't have that policy.
I promise you if you work any where else,you won't get those benefits you get now.
You don't like your job....well no job is perfect.
I always valued my time over money.
as long as I knew I did my best at work and they valued my opinions and treated me well, I was happy. Moving up the company ladder..if it happened..it happened. I didn't dwell too much on it. Cause my happiness was going to be determined outside my work place.
but having that time out side of work,being to do what I wanted..can't put a price on that.
how we spend time is more important than how we spend money.
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i like the company i work for, i like my boss, i like my fellow employees. the company treats me very well, i have a position of authority, and i have the ability to make important decisions on behalf of the company. i get paid well, i get free healthcare, and free life insurance. i have unlimited vacation days and a schedule so flexible that i can come and go as a i chose.
Re-read that.
Then ask yourself what type of job you'd RATHER have. Find out about it - will you have decision making abilities, will you have unlimited vacation time, will you like your boss and co-workers, will you be paid well, etc.
While I absolutely LOVE my current job - I have days where I hate it. I call it life.
Young or old - don't be afraid to try something new - but before you up and quit to head to your new job (you said you wouldn't quit until you had a new job), know as much as possible about the new job as you can. (I only say that because you say you've only been there 9 months, and before that you hated your other job for at least 13 months before finding this job............I'm not a resume person..........but I have to wonder if being at jobs for relative short periods of time doesn't set off a red flag during the hiring process. I can totally understand it if each successive new job can be considered a big step up, though.)
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I think that everyone goes through stages where they hate their jobs ...... even when they love their jobs overall.
Right now you have what sounds like a pretty good job. You can always look for a new job ..... but I wouldn't leave that one until you find something .... especially in this crappy economy. In fact, if you have any kind of position that would allow you to survive layoffs, I would suggest that you stay until you see what happens after the election. If the President is re-elected, I have a feeling that we'll slide back into recession. (we're really close now anyway) Plus, if this healthcare mandate is maintained by Obama's re-election, then I would expect lower end employers to limit their hiring, and lay off some full time employees ...... and for that to expand up the food chain.
Further, I would suggest that you make a list of everything you like about your job, and everything you dislike. Then decide how important each factor is. I would then also suggest that you look at the dislikes, and see if you can turn those into likes in some way, either with some modification of your work, or your attitude towards your job.
Micah 6:8; He has shown you, O mortal, what is good. And what does the Lord require of you? To act justly and to love mercy, and to walk humbly with your God.
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i am still young, so i need some advice from people that have been through this.
i like the company i work for, i like my boss, i like my fellow employees. the company treats me very well, i have a position of authority, and i have the ability to make important decisions on behalf of the company. i get paid well, i get free healthcare, and free life insurance. i have unlimited vacation days and a schedule so flexible that i can come and go as a i chose.
however, i dread coming to work. when i am at work, i do everything BUT work because i don't want to be here. i don't like my job duties.
also, the job i have is the only job i could hold in the company, unless i got promoted. i wouldn't want that because i dont like the job duties as it is ...
do the positives outweigh the negatives?
The positives are that you have a job. It's unfortunate that you don't like your job (Duties), many are in that same boat.
My Daughter who landed a job in sales right out of College, even though her studies where in biology and hoped to be a professor in the field.
She also hated her job (good money though) after the first couple of years and thought about just quitting and looking for something else or take out some school loans and continue her education and I hope she will someday.
The advice I gave to her was "by all means don't limit yourself and your opportunities, but have a plan before you leave your job ... Number one"!
She found some other opportunities for employment in her search, but none that paid as well.
Three years down the road she is still with the same company and seems to have really had a change of heart and has just been offered to start an office in California.
If they can come to terms on a new salary/com that she is happy with. I offered to her my opinion, that she should have a say in the terms they agree on. Either they sweeten the offer (9,000/year) or she can stay here in Ohio.
I wish you the best of luck.
I wouldn't wish having a job you hate on anyone.
Keep open your options.
At times I hate my job too, but mostly the travel and incompetence that I have to deal with, but such is life in the rat race.
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When it's called a 'job.'
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If it's all you say it is....free this and that and unlimited vacation, just stick with it.
I was lucky. I enjoyed my job and was compensated fairly. Between the two, go with compensation. Compensation solves many of life's problems.
If you are looking for Utopia, you won't find it.
I agree with some. There is something to be said about being happy in what you do. To me, there is more to be said about getting paid for it.
Not many people get to fish or golf all day and actually make a comfortable living doing so.
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I don't think anyone should work in a job they hate. Life is too short to dread going in to work every day. Contrary to popular belief, there are a ton of things a smart and motivated person can do in this world and make a decent living. There is no reason to be miserable just to earn an income. Most people are just too scared to do anything about it.
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You're bored. That's all it is, boredom.
Make the decision if you're ready to move on, or not, what you want to do for a living, or not, or you have to get over being bored. You should also realize that you have a pretty good gig, and you'll rarely find a place you like more than that one.
Been there.
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My job can be boring as heck.
But I'm not going anywhere, I've got it too good. I know I would just end up somewhere else working harder and making less.
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I was just saying, I've been in this position. I work on computer networks, improving performance and fault tolerance. Once I have things running good, my job gets boring. The company I'm with now keeps upgrading their network, as they're growing. It keeps me interested, and learning new things.
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To answer your general question...
I know, personally, that I don't like a job when I don't find it personally fulfilling. A job to me is more than just a way for me to provide for myself or my family. I need some sort of a job that provides a service to all which will hopefully make someones life better. My life is important but I need my efforts to make another beings life better.
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To answer your general question...
I know, personally, that I don't like a job when I don't find it personally fulfilling. A job to me is more than just a way for me to provide for myself or my family. I need some sort of a job that provides a service to all which will hopefully make someones life better. My life is important but I need my efforts to make another beings life better.
stage of life is everything.
if your 20 and you don't like your job.., move on. But honestly, if you are in your 50's, I can tell you from personal experience, it's not that easy;.., it was then I decided that it was better to work for myself...
As you age, your choices become fewer. so it's all a matter of perspective.
One size does NOT fit all
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First you need to identify what about your duties you don't like.
Is it one part of your duties or all in general?
Why do you not like them?
Is there a way to make them better?
Not many people work in a job they love AND get paid well for it. Most people are content with a job they don't mind, while getting paid adequately.
It doesn't sound like your job requires every waking hour or any real disturbance in your daily life. So maybe change your perspective of what it is to you. If you were wokring 60-80 hours and felt this way, by all means move on, but if you have all those benefits, and come and go as you please, then what more do you expect?
The chances of finding those pluses again are slim. Think where do you see yourself in 5 years, 10 years. Will those benefits be a major bonus at that point in your life?
I'm lucky in that I get paid well and like what I do, but it took me years to get to that point within the company. I did every job from the bottom up to get where I am, and luckily I was moving up as the computer field was coming of age, and I literally created my current position within the company as the only person with any computer knowledge. But the first 5-7 years were rough, getting to work at 5am and working 10-12 hour days in the Florida heat.
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I suppose it depends on what you do, because I have found the exact opposite to be true.
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I don't love the daily grind of my job, but I love the people I work with. I love the fact that I am providing a decent standard of living for my family and that I'm contributing to society rather than mooching from it.
And into the forest I go, to lose my mind and find my soul.
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The only caveat that I can offer is to beware of the thinking that the "Grass is greener on the other side" Sometimes it's lush KY bluegrass and sometimes its just dandelions and poison ivy.
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I suppose it depends on what you do, because I have found the exact opposite to be true.
In my line of work, firms don't hire people my age very often.. rarely as it turns out. So for me, it was work for myself or find another line of work. The problem is simple, I had gotten to a point, income wise, that they can get 2 or 3 young kids, train them, turn them loose and one out of 3 might be good enough.. Rather than pay a guy my age my salary requirements who hits the ground running cause I"ve been there and done that already. they don't want to pay the price for the experience.
Not crying about it, it is what it is.
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i am still young, so i need some advice from people that have been through this.
i like the company i work for, i like my boss, i like my fellow employees. the company treats me very well, i have a position of authority, and i have the ability to make important decisions on behalf of the company. i get paid well, i get free healthcare, and free life insurance. i have unlimited vacation days and a schedule so flexible that i can come and go as a i chose.
however, i dread coming to work. when i am at work, i do everything BUT work because i don't want to be here. i don't like my job duties.
also, the job i have is the only job i could hold in the company, unless i got promoted. i wouldn't want that because i dont like the job duties as it is ...
do the positives outweigh the negatives?
For you yes, (You have it made) for your company NO. They give you everything a employee could want, and you give them no work in return. Most people would have been fired for that already. I'm not trying to be an ass here but just like with so many people I see in this world today I smell a real lack of work ethic.
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I would say the same. However, they always praise me for doing a good job. My goal is one of non-failure. As long as I keep the company running smoothly, they think I do a great job. lol
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I would also add that I do work. I didn't mean "I don't work" in the literal interpretation, it's that there is nothing hard about my job.
The one poster said it best when he said that when the company is running smoothly, the job is boring. He must work in operations too.
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So it's not really a dislike of your job as much as boredom.
Well guess what? Most jobs are boring after doing them over and over for 20-30-40 years. Get used to it.
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but it doesnt have to be that way  get used to hating your job? get used to being bored in life? no, i will not succumb to that however, i don't like the duties. it's boredom PLUS the job duties. this thread has given me great advice! thanks to all! i feel as if i have had a change of heart.
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It just depends on if your job is your life or not. I don't like mowing the lawn, cleaning the house, doing laundry but they are just responsibilities I deal with while I enjoy the rest of my life. I don't thin of my 45-50 hrs I spend at work as defining my life. If you can't be happy with good pay and benefits and free scheduling at a job, good luck being happy in any job. yes, if I could be a movie star or rock star i would change professions, but in reality I have a good job that I enjoy when I keep busy. I get bored too. When things are running as intended it's slow for me and I "invent" things to do. Heck a couple weeks ago I went out in the warehouse and started cleaning up an area that tends to be a collect all for things with no home.
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I would also add that I do work. I didn't mean "I don't work" in the literal interpretation, it's that there is nothing hard about my job.
The one poster said it best when he said that when the company is running smoothly, the job is boring. He must work in operations too.
That was me. Every now and then I get a catastrophic failure that brightens my day and gives me interesting work to do. I started off working in a Technical Assistance Center, and I got used to the fast paced, high pressure, 'fix it!!! fix it!!!' mentality. I still miss that job.
You either need to find a way to deal with the boredom, or you'll have to find a new job. Don't count on that job being better than what you have now. You might want to look into a more interesting field of work. I just wanted to let you know that you're bored, as it took me a few years to figure that out for myself.
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thanks for the advice guys, i really appreciate it
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First and foremost ... you're in a position a lot of people would up and move across the country for. It's brutal out there right now, and it's not going to get any better.
To me, there's a difference between not liking your job and hating your job. Not liking your job ... most people don't. Very few people do what they love, or even enjoy. But that's life. Now hating your job ... if you're to the point where your enjoyment of life and well-being are hampered by your job specifically, then maybe you need to think it over.
But in the meantime ... start socking away money and thinking about what it is you truly want to do in life.
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I would also add that I do work. I didn't mean "I don't work" in the literal interpretation, it's that there is nothing hard about my job.
The one poster said it best when he said that when the company is running smoothly, the job is boring. He must work in operations too.
If your doing the work then I apoligize. Like I said I wasn't trying to be an ass. Now if things are just running smooth and your bored then that's a whole other story. Good luck which ever way you go bud 
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I would also add that I do work. I didn't mean "I don't work" in the literal interpretation, it's that there is nothing hard about my job.
The one poster said it best when he said that when the company is running smoothly, the job is boring. He must work in operations too.
If your doing the work then I apoligize. Like I said I wasn't trying to be an ass. Now if things are just running smooth and your bored then that's a whole other story. Good luck which ever way you go bud
I'm a sys admin, my goal in any job is to get to the point where I don't do anything. That means I've done my job. The job I just started is definitely proving to be a challenge in that regard.... many, many processes can be streamlined and I'm trying to knock them off one at a time. Why do all kinds of busy work when you can let the compuer do all the work? If you're working too hard for too long in my business, you're not very good.
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this... I have automated so many daily tasks that I hardly have anything to do when I goto work that I don't "create" to keep myself busy. I have also, restructured things and push daily emails to our salespeople that now puts the responsibility for certain things in their lap, and freed up our accounting departments time quite a bit. Yeah the sales people grumbled but when we all sat in a meeting and by their own admission they weren't able to call it a day at 1 or 2pm and go fishing, the beach or golf, or they had to come it at 8 instead of 10am, the bosses hardly felt sorry for them, especially since accounting was coming in at 8 and staying til 6-7 to keep up with everything. I swear the sales staff cringes everytime they see an email from me come through.
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Guys,
Thank you all for your words of wisdom and advice. I came in to work today thinking about a lot of stuff you guys said and I have really taken it to heart. I am being proactive on a bunch of stuff and I am having a great day. It's all because of the friendly and supportive community we have here on the Brown's message board that I am at work with renewed vigor and a can-do attitude.
Thank you!
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Good for you. I was going to say, but it sounds like others pointed you in the right direction, it sounds like you are not challenged. Instead of being content that the operation is running smoothly, figure out a way to make it run better.. figure out a way to grow the business.. set some goals and go after them...
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outstanding approach my friend. Go get'em
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I understand what you're saying. I used to like my job but over the last few years have grown apathetic towards it. As a result, I have tried to find employment elsewhere with no luck whatsoever.
Until I am able to find another job I have tried to focus on the things about my current job that I like and make them the focal point of my day and the things that I hate I try to minimize and let roll of my shoulders.
The best part about looking for another job is already having one. And while you already have one, you can be more selective about where you want to go.
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