Uncharted waters: What Cleveland Browns tight end E.J. Bibbs learned from the most traumatic day of his life
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on August 23, 2015 at 6:00 AM, updated August 23, 2015
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BEREA, Ohio – Frightened and fatigued, E.J. Bibbs reached the shoreline and glanced over his shoulder at the chaos unfolding behind him in the choppy waters of LaSalle Lake.
A fishing boat carrying Bibbs, his father and his high school football coach had capsized on a chilly morning outside of Chicago in 2010. The senior spotted the coach swimming to safety, but nearly a minute passed before he located his dad, Emmanuel, looking disoriented about 30 yards from lake's banks.
The happy trio had been casting for catfish when the wind began to gust and waves lapped into the boat. While the teenager scooped water out of the craft, the effort proved futile. His coach asked if he could swim.
"I could swim to stay alive," said Bibbs, the Browns undrafted free agent, recounting the frantic events a week ago.
His plunge into the cold water accidentally caused the boat to overturn. Emmanuel tumbled into the lake and the vessel struck him on the knee and side of the head.
Bibbs had survived the dangerous streets of the city's South Side by always listening to his parents, a pair of Sheriff's deputies. He averted trouble and blossomed into an NFL-caliber tight end thanks in part to a healthy respect for authority.
As Emmanuel bobbed in the water, his son yelled, "I'm coming to get you." His father protested, shouting, "no, stay there, stay there."
Bibbs chose to disobey Emmanuel's commands. The decision altered the course of two lives.
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Here's what the Browns should know about the Iowa State product, one of training camp's most pleasant surprises: Bibbs will clean broken glass off fields for the privilege of playing on them.
Manicured swatches of grass aren't plentiful around inner cities. Bibbs' middle-school practice grounds were adjacent to railroad tracks. Rocks and bottles were routinely hurled onto the field and players had to "comb" it before practices.
father.jpgBrowns tight end E.J. Bibbs described his father as his best friend. He swam to rescue him when their fishing boat capsized in 2010.Bibbs family archive
"It's just what we did," said the 6-foot-2, 258-pounder with the full face, thick frame and flowing braids. "It's just Chicago."
Bibbs will do whatever he's told, whatever it takes. He's "come out of nowhere" in the words of Browns coach Mike Pettine to share the team lead with five pre-season receptions, netting 43 yards. He's also played fullback for the first time in his life as presumptive starter Malcolm Johnson nurses a shoulder injury.
Iowa State's Paul Rhoads labels him "one of the most selfless players I've ever coached." Bibbs learned the meaning of sacrifice growing up in a household with three sisters: Keke, Markita and Alexis.
"It's always been about taking care of family and representing your last name," he said.
Emmanuel and Debbie instilled the importance of accountability and principles. Bibbs literally ran errands for the family. His mother timed his trips to the store and if he were gone for more than five minutes she came looking for him. His parents knew the temptations hanging around the corners of every block. Emmanuel had been involved in police standoffs. He had knives pulled on him.
Bibbs was forbidden to wear earrings or get tattoos as a youth. Baggy pants and gang colors also were prohibited. There was one other rule: "No messin' with girls."
Emmanuel had been a promising baseball player who drew interest from the Pittsburgh Pirates. But when Debbie became pregnant with the couple's first child at age 19 the uncle who raised Emmanuel told him to forget about baseball and find a job to support his future wife and daughter.
Sitting on a bench outside the Browns' locker room, the memories of his father pour from Bibbs' mind.
"A lot of kids didn't have their dads around," he said. "My mom and dad played a great role in my life."
Emmanuel taught his son to block and tackle. He taught him right from wrong. He also taught him one other valuable lesson: how to swim.
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The father had been in the water for more than 10 minutes, weighed down by a heavy coat, blue jeans and boots. The life jackets stashed under the seats of the boat had been forgotten.
The blow to the head momentarily had dazed Emmanuel. Twice he sunk to the bottom of the lake, which measured eight- to 12-feet deep where the vessel had capsized. The father had hung onto his fishing rod and used it to propel himself back to the surface.
He was exhausted and frantic, consumed with worry about his son's welfare. His energy depleted, Emmanuel barely kept his head above water. But when he saw Bibbs abandoning the safety of the shore, the father began to swim toward him.
"It was overwhelming," Bibbs recalled. "It was just shocking at the time to think I could lose my dad on a boat."
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His family moved from the city prior to his senior year. Bibbs could have attended a suburban school and improved his chances for a scholarship offer.
sibs.jpgBrowns tight end E.J. Bibbs has three sisters, Keke, Markita and Alexis,Bibbs family archive
Bogan High won just a handful of games during his first three seasons. The wide receiver-linebacker remained loyal to the program and his team went undefeated his senior year, qualifying for the playoffs.
The realities of life in low-income neighborhoods, however, can make happy times fleeting. Three prep teammates are dead, according to Bibbs' family members, and five or six others have been incarcerated. Bibbs' stayed focused on his studies, earned his degree and walked on at the University of Iowa. He never took a snap with the Hawkeyes, though, due to late a ACT score.
Although Bibbs' attended classes, he grew frustrated with the gridiron inactivity. He transferred to Arizona Western College, a JUCO school in Yuma, which had a history of funneling players back into top-flight schools.
Coaches converted him into a tight end and Bibbs caught 22 passes his sophomore season while blocking for a squad that rushed for 1,750 yards. At Arizona Western, Bibbs befriended a fellow Chicagoan and 2015 second-round pick named Randy Gregory.
But Bibbs was lonely in the desert and without a car.
"It was horrible," he recalled. "It was too hot for me. All I did was play football, hang out and watch movies. It was so far from Wal-Mart or really anything."
Mostly, Bibbs missed family, especially his father, the man he considered his best friend.
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As a kid learning to swim in hotel pools on family vacations, Bibbs required a push or a nudge from his father to get going. On the most traumatic day of his life, just the image of Emmanuel in the water was enough to take the first stoke.
Bibbs journeyed about 10 to 15 yards before reaching his father, who was swimming furiously toward him. The youngster dragged dad to safety. Father and son lay on the shore wrapped in each others embrace.
"Yeah, I thought I was going to die," said Emmanuel, 47. "When I knew E.J. had made it to shore that's all I cared about. I was good. I was so tired and I was ready to give up.
"When I saw him come after me, that's what gave me the strength to keep going. He saved my life by coming back after me."
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After the Browns' intra-squad scrimmage in Columbus on Aug. 7, Bibbs searched for his family in the stands.
As Pettine praised his performance, which included catching a touchdown pass from Johnny Manziel, Bibbs reached over the railing at Ohio Stadium and clasped his father's hand.
mom-dad.jpgBrowns tight end E.J. Bibbs flanked by his parents, Emmanuel and Debbie, in Cleveland. Bibbs family archive
Emmanuel had never seen his son so emotional.
"He kept saying, 'Dad, I did it,'" Emmanuel said.
His father has been there every step of the way. They spoke almost nightly during those trying times in Yuma. It was Emmanuel, who talked him into honoring his commitment to Iowa State after Oklahoma and Nebraska came with late offers.
Dad saw an opportunity for Bibbs to play right away with the Cyclones. He caught 84 passes for 844 yards and 10 TDs in his two seasons. He also earned first-team Big-12 honors in his senior year and graduated with a degree in liberal studies.
"He is so athletic and he can do great things in space," Rhoads said. "When the game was on the line everyone knew where the ball was going. He would be bracketed by defenders and still find a way to make the play. He rarely got tackled by just one guy."
A late-season injury and "not running well" at his pro day, however, hurt his draft stock, the coach said.
Bibbs was stunned not to hear his name called on May 2 and slammed his cell phone to the ground after the draft concluded. Emmanuel was there again to ease his son's disappointment.
He received several free agent offers, including one from the Browns. Rhoads had been part of a University of Pittsburgh staff with current Cleveland tight ends coach Brian Angelichio and raved about Bibbs' ability.
Emmanuel scoured the Browns' depth chart and knew the club was in need of tight-end help after former Pro Bowler Jordan Cameron left in free agency.
"As he was leaving for Cleveland (in April), I told him 'go play your ass off and I don't want to see you back around this house (in the fall),'" Emmanuel said.
There's no guarantee Bibbs, 23, makes the team despite a strong pre-season start. He's getting mostly second- and third-team reps behind veterans Gary Barnidge, Rob Housler and Jim Dray. Pettine said the Browns have asked plenty of Bibbs, including learning multiple positions.
"He has proven that he has an NFL skillset," Pettine said Saturday. "We'll see how it plays out."
Emmanuel has attended both exhibition games in Cleveland and looks forward to the final one, Sept. 3, in the family's hometown Chicago.
After a recent practice, Bibbs recalled his days growing up in the Windy City and the fateful morning on the water. He realizes how different his life would have turned out had his father not summoned the strength to keep paddling to shore.
Bibbs has never dreamed about the accident, but has occasionally looked at his dad and said with a grin: "Want to go fishing on a boat?"
Gallows humor aside, Bibbs admits to a lesson learned in the choppy waters of LaSalle Lake when the only thought in his mind was "swim, swim, swim."
"It's why I'm always telling my parents I love them because you never know what might happen," he said.
E.J. Bibbs once needed a push from his best friend to swim in a hotel pool. Now, he navigates uncharted NFL waters with confidence.