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To me, there's a huge difference between gyrating on a mans lap and actually having sex with him.
No, I would never encourage my daughter to be a stripper, if that's what you're asking. But strip clubs don't have the same impact on society as prostitution, because again, there is no sex involved.
Put it to you this way, there are plenty of men I know that have gone to strip clubs who would never even consider hiring a prostitute...
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There are people who think stripping is just as bad. Again, you are basing all of this on your own morals. That's not how the law should work. There are people who think I should be in jail 
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Speaking of strippers (sorry if I'm hijacking this thread)...
I was wondering what everyone thought about a married man going to a strip club. To me, it's okay for him to go and watch...but do you think it's considered "cheating" if he gets a lap dance?
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Speaking of strippers (sorry if I'm hijacking this thread)...
I was wondering what everyone thought about a married man going to a strip club. To me, it's okay for him to go and watch...but do you think it's considered "cheating" if he gets a lap dance?
Of course not. My wife thinks otherwise, though...and I'm not allowed. 
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Interesting.
what if it was the hot neighbor down the street that was giving you a lap dance at your house instead. Would it be cheating then?
Why is there a difference if she's getting paid for it?
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I was wondering what everyone thought about a married man going to a strip club. To me, it's okay for him to go and watch...but do you think it's considered "cheating" if he gets a lap dance?
Quick story. Hubby was in Topeka, KS at the begining of this month. Not much to do out there, so he and the guy he was traveling with went to a strip club. His friend got the lap dance, offered one to John, he said no. John knows that I have no issue with him going to a club, but wasn't sure about my stance on the lap dance. Wasn't that sweet????
My stance: It's not cheating. But, why give yourself the "loaded gun" if you aren't going home to your significant other? Isn't that just asking for some kind of trouble?
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Because you go there for fun and it is purely physical. The "hot neighbor" is someone you'd have to see afterwards and that you associate with on a regular basis. Strippers provide a service, even though it's sexual, that's the extent of that relationship. How many of us really run into strippers while shopping or something..my guess is not many.
As for the original purpose of the thread..
I believe prostitution should be legal. It's already widespread and it is the world's oldest profession for a reason. If you can't stop it then might as well make it as safe as possible by requiring regular STD testing, etc. Having a sort of "prostitute center" would also eliminate johns and pimps which is the main problem with prostitution. I mean think about it..if you were to hook up with a prostitute, would you rather it be with someone who's been tested and is proven to be "safe" or take your chance with the girl on the corner?
Edit: I don't go to strip clubs and even if prostitution was legal I still wouldn't pay for sex..but there's MILLIONS of people that do so might as well make it as safe as possible.
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what if it was the hot neighbor down the street that was giving you a lap dance at your house instead. Would it be cheating then?
Why is there a difference if she's getting paid for it?
Because money is the incentive...money exchanged, lap dance provided, end of transaction. If the hot neighbor came into my home to give me a free lap dance, I think her motive would be a "happy ending" of some sort.
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Speaking of strippers (sorry if I'm hijacking this thread)...
I was wondering what everyone thought about a married man going to a strip club. To me, it's okay for him to go and watch...but do you think it's considered "cheating" if he gets a lap dance?
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I need to write this stuff down... "Having naked man on top of me is perfectly acceptable and is not cheating". Hope you don't mind, honey. 
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Prostitution and drug trafficking. Pure capitalism at its absolute finest. There's a demand for sex and drugs, and these people provide the supply.
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I was wondering what everyone thought about a married man going to a strip club. To me, it's okay for him to go and watch...but do you think it's considered "cheating" if he gets a lap dance?
This depends entirely on whether or not his wife views it as cheating and women probably view it differently. If he's going to a strip club his wife ought to know that.. if he doesn't think he can tell his wife, then he shouldn't go and the same logic applies to what he's going to do while he's there. And I'd say the same thing if the genders were reversed and I do think it would be unfair for a guy to think he should be allowed to go but his wife can't go to a male dance club...
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That's what I believe too. Although personally I would think of it as cheating, I realize that there are wives out there who wouldn't consider it cheating, and that's fine. But they need to make sure to set those boundaries early in the relationship.
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I need to write this stuff down...
"Having naked man on top of me is perfectly acceptable and is not cheating".
Hope you don't mind, honey.
My thoughts are inconsequential here. I already said my wife won't let me.
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Most guys I know might go to one when they are out of town or if there is a bachelor party (though I'm beyond the bachelor party age).. nobody that I know is one of those guys that lurks there 2 nights a week...
If a married guy is going to a strip club on a regular basis, then that couple might want to examine their own love life .... JMHO...
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"Having naked man on top of me is perfectly acceptable and is not cheating".
Well in that case "I did not have sexual relations with Christy"
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I just don't understand it...let me use a scenario as an example... Let's say that me and a few of my friends are at a bar. I call my husband on the phone, and here's how the conversation goes: Me: Hi honey, my friends and I are at a bar right now...there's a really hot guy here and I was about to ask him if he wanted to get in the back seat of my car so he could get naked and rub himself all over me. you're cool with that, right? Hubby: What? Are you crazy? Hell no, that would be cheating! 2 hours later, I call him again, only this time from a male strip club. Me: Hi honey, my friends and I are at a male strip club right now...there's a really hot stripper here and I was about to pay him to get naked and him to rub himself all over me. you're cool with that, right? Hubby: Of course I am, that's not cheating if you're paying for it. Have a good time! What am I missing here? 
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What am I missing here?
The exchange of money & knowing that all that is going to happen is just a dance, You know this and your husband know's this.
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The money has nothing to do with it....either way, intimate physical contact is going to occur.
And I'm not talking about the possibility of things going further with the random stranger in the bar....we are basing this scenario on nothing but a lap dance.
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What am I missing here?
A few screws if you called up in the first place.
But like I said some time back....men and women think differently.
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Your missing that to the guy giving the dance, it isn't intimate. It's a job. It may be intimate to the person receiving the dance, but it is not to the guy giving it.
The guy that wanted to take you to his car IS more than likely looking for intimacy and more than just a lap dance.
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Sometimes, many times, it isn't a case of being hard up....it is simply wanting to avoid the protocol usually involved in a normal relationship.
This reminds me of a document my brother sent me when I was going through my divorce last year. It had an analysis by the guy who wrote the paper (who was somewhat wealthy) of how it would have been cheaper for him to hire a very high dollar call girl two times per week than it would have been to get married and pay alimony and split the assets 50/50. 
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Maybe this will help you out.............. I was 27 the 1st. time I ever went to a strip club  And My wife at the time took me, payed for my 1st. ever lap dance, We both knew we were going home together. But I think it depend's on the couple, if you are secure in your relasionship, and know that nothing else is going to happen, why should it even become a big deal? Fact is it is just fantasy. nothing more or less. jmho.
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That's what I believe too. Although personally I would think of it as cheating, I realize that there are wives out there who wouldn't consider it cheating, and that's fine. But they need to make sure to set those boundaries early in the relationship.
Cross your fingers and hope my woman feels otherwise because I have a bachelor party to attend on Saturday night...
In all seriousness, I think woman take male strippers way less serious than males take female strippers. For woman yeah it's a guy with a tight body in a bananna hammock, but it's more hilarious than it is serious. Male stripping is a lot more lighthearted. Female stripping is more serious, if that makes sense.
I'm by no means a strip club guy, but girls at the Horse, Christie's, etc, will probably expand out their services for the right price, which guys take way too seriously. Male strippers will do it for the sake of getting laid, women do it for business.
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What am I missing here?
Control and professionalism (for lack of a better word)... the guy at the strip club does this for a living, he knows where the boundaries are to keep his job, there are people in the next room.. and because it's his job, he is far less likely to get sexually aroused and want to go to the next level..
The bar stranger in the back seat is not expected to have the same control.. nobody is watching your car waiting to see if you scream.. honestly, if you asked me to do that, I'd think you WANTED to get laid, you just couldn't bring yourself to phrase it that way.
Let me give you a slightly different example... Your husband comes home from work and finds a man in your shower (clothed) and asks you who it is.. you tell him it's a neighbor from down the street.. what would his reaction be?
Now suppose he comes home and finds a man in your shower, only he has a tool belt on and a pipe wrench in his hand and you tell your husband its a guy from the plumbing service because the shower was leaking... you get a different reaction because one is supposed to be a professional and there is a reason he is where he is... and when he's done, you get a bill..
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Wife: Hi honey, my friends and I are at a bar right now...there's a really hot guy here and I was about to ask him if he wanted to get in the back seat of my car so he could get naked and rub himself all over me. you're cool with that, right?
Hubby: Ok. Oh, BTW your sister is her ein bed with me, she says hello...well she actaully said "MMmffFmmFffm"
2 hours later, I call him again, only this time from a male strip club.
Me: Hi honey, my friends and I are at a male strip club right now...there's a really hot stripper here and I was about to pay him to get naked and him to rub himself all over me. you're cool with that, right?
Hubby: That's fine, I'm keeping my self busy, your best friend just showed up.
What am I missing here?
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Wife: Hi honey, my friends and I are at a bar right now...there's a really hot guy here and I was about to ask him if he wanted to get in the back seat of my car so he could get naked and rub himself all over me. you're cool with that, right?
Hubby: Ok. Oh, BTW your sister is her ein bed with me, she says hello...well she actaully said "MMmffFmmFffm"
2 hours later, I call him again, only this time from a male strip club.
Me: Hi honey, my friends and I are at a male strip club right now...there's a really hot stripper here and I was about to pay him to get naked and him to rub himself all over me. you're cool with that, right?
Hubby: That's fine, I'm keeping my self busy, your best friend just showed up.
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I've never really given this topic much thought to be honest..
If a woman wishes to use her body in that fashion,, I guess I wouldn't want to be the one that says she's not allowed to do that. I'm not sure it's any of my business.
I don't have kids, but if I did and a hooker were standing out in front of my house soliciting guys, I'd have a problem with that. Not because I care or should care what she does with her body.. but because I don't need it in front of my children..
But that's more of a location thing than anything else.. I live in Aurora Ohio,, I don't know of any hooker or hookers working this town. But I did some checking...
I won't post the sites here,, but do some internet searching... I did and I found Eros Guide and The Erotic Review.. Google those.. and you will see what I think is hooker heaven..
Pick San Francisco as the city you want to look at.. man, you will be shocked at what you see.... I mean they are right there out in the open.. you see thier faces (and quite a bit more).. it's an amazing underground society or so it appears..
So, I guess it's already happening...wanted or unwanted..its there.. so if it's there and the city can't stop it, then it's wasting resources on it.
Maybe the answer is, legalize it and like Neveda, Regulate it and of course, tax it.
Ahh, in the end, I guess it doesn't matter, it's not referred to as the Oldest Profession for no reason... it's been around a long time and I don't see it going anywhere.
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I was wondering what everyone thought about a married man going to a strip club. To me, it's okay for him to go and watch...but do you think it's considered "cheating" if he gets a lap dance?
I don't think it's cheating,, but I know my wife hated it when I went to those places because I had clients that liked them...
I was kinda wondering, is thinking about having sex with someone other than your partner the same as actually having sex with someone other than you partner?
I mean, Aren't you mentally cheating on your partner?
Wow, that's a wierd way to look at it!
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The bar stranger in the back seat is not expected to have the same control.. nobody is watching your car waiting to see if you scream.. honestly, if you asked me to do that, I'd think you WANTED to get laid, you just couldn't bring yourself to phrase it that way.
I guess it's because of the gender I used in my scenario that I wasn't able to get my point across...so let's say that the female had a huge male friend with her to witness the entire thing and make sure it didn't go any further than what I stated....we're talking professional wrestler kind-of-huge.
Is there a difference between that, and having it done by a "professional"?
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So your talking my size?
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Oh man, if mentally cheating is considered cheating I wonder how many of us are doomed. thinking about your wife/husband mentally cheating is better off not even thinking about, because I think it's inevitable yet disheartening. The sad part is I think most all people mentally cheat, especially guys. Every advertisement directed at men involves some half naked woman it seems like.
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For woman yeah it's a guy with a tight body in a bananna hammock, but it's more hilarious than it is serious
Definitely true. I've never been to one myself, but when I picture it in my head, I can just see me cracking up the entire time.
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So your talking my size?
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